心理學家揭露了什麼讓孩子的大腦發展變得更大

Psychologist Reveals What Makes Kids’ Brains Grow Bigger by Heather DeDonmenico ( lifehack.org) 

 作為父母，我們知道，教我們的孩子「如何使用馬桶」，「如何說謝謝」這些對他們成年後的未來能夠成功是非常重要的。但是我們中有多少人真正思考「愛」在孩童成長接段的作用呢？

請繼續閱讀了解知道你的孩子是如何看待愛和如何綀習愛而且因為這樣的過程多麼重要地在幫助他們擁有快樂，平衡的生活。

As parents we know that teaching our kids how to use the potty and how to say thank you are very important to their future success as adults.  However, how many of us have really considered the role of love in growing up?

Keep reading to understand how significant it is to know how your kids think about love and how to practice love in a way that help them to lead a happy, balanced life.

你對孩子表達愛越多，他們的大腦越大。

The more you show love to your children, the bigger their brains grow.

作為神經科學的愛好者（大腦如何與學習和行為相關）和依戀（培育和結合的過程），我（作者Heather D.) 被過去十年的研究所吹捧，支持“愛” - 或缺乏“愛”是成功發展我們子女幸福的唯一最重要的變量。

事實上你通過擁抱，親吻，微笑及無私地積極正面態度，凡事包括他們，對他們感興趣，通過家庭互動，以及更多的培育式交流，他們的大腦越大。

除了食物，水和住房的基本人類需求之外，愛和養育不僅為我們孩子的未來幸福，而且為生存建立了通道。作為物種的適宜性，人類大腦與其他物種相比的大小與我們成功創造的能力正相關。大腦響應愛而成長的能力可以被看作是一種將人類與危險和入侵者聯繫在一起的方式。

As a lover of neuroscience  (how the brain relates to learning and behavior) and attachment (the process of nurturing and bonding), I am blown away by the last decade of research supporting that “love” -or the absence of- “love” is the single most important variable in the successful development of well-being in our children.

The truth is that the more you show love to your children with a hug, a kiss, a smile, unconditional positive regard, by including them, being interested in them, through family based play, and so much more of the nurturing type of communication, the bigger their brains grow.

Beyond the basic human needs of food, water and housing, love and nurturing not only builds the pathway for our children’s future happiness, but also survival. As the fittest of species, the size of the human brain in comparison to other species positively relates to our ability to pro-create successfully. The brain’s ability to grow in response to love can be seen as a way to keep humans banded together against danger and intruders.

我們的大腦實際上是尋求愛

Our brains are actually wired for love

所以現在我們知道我們的大腦實際上是尋求愛，但我們該如何方式與我們的孩子溝通才有助於他們達到整體的成功呢？

So now that we know our brains are actually wired for love, how can we communicate with our children in a way that contributes to their overall success?

研究更表示與你的孩子談論他們的想法及了解孩子是如何思考的對話過程是增加孩子的言語能力、情感理解和社會相關性。

Studies also show that talking to your kids about what and how they think increases verbal ability, emotional understanding, and social relatedness.

作為父母，我們可以通過...了解孩子內部發生了什麼，例如：

• 分享他們生活中重要事物的非判斷性觀察;
• 有關他們的感覺的談話;
• 允許他們提出關於難以理解的主題的問題;
• 給他們空間來解決他們自己的事情。

這種通過溝通的聯繫導致孩子內化的接受感，信心和成功解決問題的能力。所以如果愛可以改變大腦的未來;我想，愛可以改變世界。讓我們試試吧！

As parents we can seek to understand what is going on inside a child by…

• sharing non-judgmental observations about important things in their lives;
• having conversations about how they feel;
• allowing them to ask questions about topics that are hard to understand, and;
• giving them space to figure things out on their own.

This type of bonding through communication leads a child to internalize a sense of acceptance, confidence, and an ability to successfully problem solve. So if love can change the brain for the future; I suppose then love can change the world. Let’s try it!